Why do we get angry? (I'm sure that at one point, I've gone over this topic before, but I still need to vent.)
Most of my friends know that I had a rather irrational and vicious temper when I was younger. Whenever things went awry or someone messed around too much, I would just blow up. Every little thing that would bug me lit my short fuse and I would explode. After a while, I did grow up and I didn't get as angry as easily. Granted, I would be rather perturbed at certain people's antics or when things wouldn't work right, but I managed to....well, manage myself. Eventually, I reached a point where I could suppress my anger and simply go about my business.
(Yeah, that's great and all, but that's not really what I'm aiming at today.)
Do we get angry because people cross us? Or rather, do we get angry because WE can't handle what just happened?
I often thought that it was other people's faults and shortcomings and just plain bad luck that caused us to blow up in a fit of rage. However, as I learned to suppress this irrational emotion, I began to see that the problem stemmed from me, and not anything else. We only get as angry as we allow ourselves to become.
We all have fuses.
As time weathered me, I grew more aware of the things that would light my fuse. Fortunately, God did grant me wisdom and self-control to extend this fuse so I wouldn't get angry so easily. At the same time, I saw that other people had very different lengths of fuses. Some would have extremely long ones and others would have ones shorter than mine. What I realized, though, is that no matter how long a fuse we have, we still have one. At one point or another, we will explode. It's simply a matter of time until we do, really.
Most of my friends know that I had a rather irrational and vicious temper when I was younger. Whenever things went awry or someone messed around too much, I would just blow up. Every little thing that would bug me lit my short fuse and I would explode. After a while, I did grow up and I didn't get as angry as easily. Granted, I would be rather perturbed at certain people's antics or when things wouldn't work right, but I managed to....well, manage myself. Eventually, I reached a point where I could suppress my anger and simply go about my business.
(Yeah, that's great and all, but that's not really what I'm aiming at today.)
Do we get angry because people cross us? Or rather, do we get angry because WE can't handle what just happened?
I often thought that it was other people's faults and shortcomings and just plain bad luck that caused us to blow up in a fit of rage. However, as I learned to suppress this irrational emotion, I began to see that the problem stemmed from me, and not anything else. We only get as angry as we allow ourselves to become.
We all have fuses.
As time weathered me, I grew more aware of the things that would light my fuse. Fortunately, God did grant me wisdom and self-control to extend this fuse so I wouldn't get angry so easily. At the same time, I saw that other people had very different lengths of fuses. Some would have extremely long ones and others would have ones shorter than mine. What I realized, though, is that no matter how long a fuse we have, we still have one. At one point or another, we will explode. It's simply a matter of time until we do, really.
